Why some women love skinny men

The whole hipster movement has brought to the fore a new aesthetic for men: skinniness. Women have wanted to be skinny since time immemorial (i.e. for the last 40 years or so), but it’s only recently that (straight) women have really wanted the same from their boyfriends and husbands. Traditionally, women have liked men to be muscular—a sign of strength, confidence and vitality—but now even waifish-looking men can get love from women.

Why? I know a LOOOOOOT of women and can put forth 2 guesses based on the way I know they tick:

1) They’re hoping it’s catching. Just like women like to hang out with other skinny women, many women are hoping they can catch skinniness from their rail-thin boyfriend or husband like an STD. After all, there have been recent studies that suggest that if you hang out with fat people, you’re likely to get fat, and, speaking less sociologically and more biologically, certain intestinal bacteria can influence your weight, too.

2) They want skinny daughters. It’s only since the era of Twiggy that really thin models have been in, and it’s only been since a number of these models have had similarly-thin, pretty daughters (think Bianca and Jade Jagger, Isabella and Elettra Rossellini, Kelly Emberg and Ruby Stewart, Beverly and Anansa Johnson…an endless list, really) that consciousness that you might want to pass on skinny genes to your progeny has spread. And not only do the mother’s genes matter: witness skinny rocker men with gorgeous, willowy daughters (Keith Richards and Steven Tyler come to mind). NONE of this is lost on young women who are paying attention.

These reasons—the latter, especially—help to explain why gay men don’t like skinny boyfriends; some might want to be skinny themselves, but almost all gay men (except the chickenhawks) like muscular, fleshy boyfriends. They’d rather try to get/stay skinny by hanging out with skinny, bitchy queens.

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  1. I’m skinny skinny. 5’7″ 125 lbs. I have been single most of my life and have had no luck with the girls at all. I’m a good looking guy too. Irish and look young for my age. I’m not a jerk and always smile. Women look at me funny when I go to the beach. Like if I was a walking dead person because I’m so thin. It really sux. I have been in good shape all my life too. I Played sports in school and did the gym thing for like 20 years. I’m in good shape, I just can’t gain any weight. So where are all these women that love skinny guys ??? I would love to talk to a few of them if only to chat and say hello..

    Comment by Thin Man all alone — November 23, 2011 @ 5:32 pm

  2. Thin Man all alone, you sound like someone I’d date. I love skinny guys! But I’m unattractive, sadly. I’m 5’5 143.

    Comment by Poet — August 5, 2012 @ 2:24 pm

  3. What a load of crap! (and I would know since I’m full of it myself lmao)
    Sorry, but your assumptions are completely wrong. And I would know because I consider myself an authority on this and most other matters.
    The simple answer is, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not everyone is attracted to the same look.
    I personally, along with dozens of other women I know, find the stereotypical-muscular man completely repulsive and boring.
    It’s unnatural, pumping your body up like that just looks hideous to some of us women (and ok, I’m a bit overweight, and I don’t want a skinny daughter unless she ends up as plump as I am)

    Comment by Luci — July 19, 2015 @ 10:01 am

  4. #1….the prob is your 5’7″ and may also be a pug

    I’m 6’2″ with medium looks- I will on occasion cause hard nipples in +80f temps

    Comment by bongstar420 — April 14, 2016 @ 3:33 pm

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